Dear pipsqueaks,
You wouldn't believe the news: another proposal among my friends! How excited I was when I saw the pics *so sweet*. To think about it, at my age (just a little shy of a quarter of a century), I never thought about the next chapter. Okay, maybe that's not completely true. Of course, I thought about it, but I knew that it isn't time to turn the page just yet either.
Even so, I can't help wondering if I should really be worried about being "behind" on this path. Maybe it IS the age to start considering or planning? I don't know. It doesn't help at to all to know that my closest cousin- also my age- is due at the end of August. No doubt, I'm over the moon about this bundle of joy to come, but not going to lie, it does give a slight invisible pressure for not even having tied the knot yet *Sigh*.
But then again, what's the rush? In so many ways, the elements of our lives are totally different. Our goals and expectations that we use to evaluate ourselves at the end of life are unique to our "life-scope". What may be at the top of my priority may not be hers, and vice versa. So why would the milestones in our lives occur at the same point in time? It won't, and it shouldn't.
Another thought: You know what they say about bad boys. They can become the role model husbands in the future. Why? Because they have done all they had ever wanted to do. Essentially, their wish list- including all their worldly desires and cravings- have been checked off. So, they no longer have that temptation to do any of those things. On the same note, that is the same reason I want to do everything I want to do now before all those commitments happen. Not that I'd be any way tempted to bail out on them, but it's just that thought at the back of my mind. That I should've done this, or done that. No, I'm not going to live in regret. Therefore, right now, I want to max out my life before wedding, before kids, before growing old. They are somewhere down my track of time, but just not any time soon yet. Possibly, in accordance with life's mysterious ways, it isn't my time yet. In that case, I'll just have to wait. No biggie.
Life isn't about rushing to graduate, to get married, to have kids, to grow old and eventually die. If you look at it that way, the goal is death. What a horrible thought. Now, in your own way at your own pace, you can enjoy the process as they pan out. You can't fast-forward life. You will have to experience the whole process anyway, so why not make the most of it?
The view at the mountain top will not be worth much if the climb was an easy one. (18.5.12).