Finally finished reading my collection of historical royal marriages n scandals, I've come to a conclusion that as much as u'd like to believe love can grow with time, it really doesn't, n probably can't. Think about it this way, how can something grow out of nothing? Logically, there must be a "start" for it to grow from. It's a bit ironic that during those old days, kings n queens would force marriages- mostly for political advantages- when they themselves know best that nothing good would really come out of it, other than alliances n heirs. Even so, u can't blame the parents as they probably just followed the flow as that was the way things were done. Marriage is of the country's matter, n if by luck the person ur to tie the knots with is someone u feel for, then we've got a win-win situation here. But of course, like shooting stars, they're a rare scene.
Out of all the stories I've read, only a few were of real love matches, n their stories cannot be more inspiring. But the rest, almost in a defined pattern, led miserable lives. Some beheaded, some gone insane, some bed ridden, n a lucky few parted in peace. Of course, it's a different time now n u can't expect the same acceptance to pre-arranged marriages or to even think that "things will work out" for this kinda situation. In a sense, u can't "work out" something that neither or just one party really want to "work out" in the first place. It really does take both to make things work. That'll probably be the first test of strength for any couple n to not have love as a driving force, the results can be quite disappointing.
Actually, even couples who married out of love nowadays part ways. What makes u think arranged marriages would survive any longer? Let's not make the rate of broken families n loveless childhood even higher. For one, it leads to an even more depressing view of marriage as a whole. Honestly, u can't imagine how many people my age don't consider marriage simply because it can no longer represent a sign of unity n love, n who do I blame for this? People who don't take marriages seriously. So stop it! If ur not gonna be in it 150%, then don't bother. On the other side of the same note, I respect fully of couples who don't get married. For many reasons unknown, possibly at least, they either don't feel the need for a "legal agreement" to validate their love, or they respect it enough to wait n see. By my standards, anyway, both are at least thoroughly thought out, actioned accordingly, n the whatever happens happens. Heads up for the "still lost in transition between a teen n an adult"- it's called being responsible.
So there u have it, why even time cannot lend a helping hand to love. It has to have some existence, however small, for it to bloom. So, positively, I guess what I'm trying to say here is also that if u feel there's a spark, trust n go with it. It's sad enough that it doesn't happen often already, why let the chance slip by? Just like any picture-perfect moment, it can only be captured once. Don't be blinking it away!
People spend their whole lives searching for what they think they want without actually knowing what they want. No wonder happiness is scarce. (10.24.10)