Make Time

this is one thing i don't get: how can someone honestly hv NO TIME? i mean, yah u can be as busy as heck, but u must hv time. when ur making ur way somewhere, or waiting for something, or taking a break, or whatever. that's time, isn't it? i mean, it may not be the best use of ur "valuable free minutes" if ur seriously one of those people who max out their days (like my awesome co-worker), but u DO hv time. u hv 24hrs a day to deal with all ur "very important" must-do's, minus off ur sleeping time n ur "alone time" that u need to keep ur sanity. tell me this, hv u ever said, "sure! that sounds cool, i'll check it out when i hv time" or "okay. i'll do that when i'm done with this"? but no matter how u do it, ur most likely gonna be pushing n squishing things in between ur busy schedule that u'll  be so overwhelmed. in the end, u'll prob just forget it. that's the problem when u take time. when there's only so much to begin with, if u don't ever set it, u'll prob never get to it. (it's like baking cookies: if u never put it in the oven, all u'll ever get is dough).

on the other hand, u can always make time. think about it this way: if u made the effort to book out a time, then everything else would have to be re-scheduled to fit ur new plan, wouldn't it? more likely than not, u'll be comfortably enjoying ur perfectly arranged schedule without being rushed (if u planned it correctly, of course). now, doesn't that make ur life SO MUCH easier? for me, believe it or not, i actually try to wake up 5mins earlier (cos once i get to the office, i rarely touch my phone unless its uber urgent gossip that i need to attend to) just to reply messages on my phone cos i value the time ppl put in to sending me the messages AND, of course, the attention ppl give to me by replying MY messages. it really does come down to what weighs more. (plz don't kill me if i don't; it's most likely cos i woke up too late! but i'll eventually get to it..i promise!)

now, let's not get nasty here. we're not suppose to start expecting n blacklisting our friends for not replying messages (altho that is just ONE example out of a million others: not initiating greetings, forgetting birthdays, habit of ditching, n etc....basically whatever u feel appropriate to categorize under what "oblivious friends who obviously don't care enough about u to make an effort" would do). there's really nothing u can do about it. ur either gonna keep being the only one who cares, or ur gonna walk awayr. it'll be hard, but u'll prob be better off with a new friend who cares enough not to upset u every other day. been there, done that. u'll be happier.

those who "take time" will never have enough time; those who "make time" have all the time in the world. -8.21.11

but then again, maybe i'm just not that important. i get it. time to do some re-prioritization of our friendship. thanks for the heads up.